Over the time there has been a great concern from many spouses who are suspicious that their beloved love of life are love cheats. Probably that phrase is too western, could substitute it with having an extra marital affair. Not really sure whether that brings point home or I should say betraying their marital covenant by having sexual relationships with other parasites whose intention is no lesser than to break and kill their culprits.

By the look of demographic strata there are more married adults whose spouse are here or a broad who are selfishly engaged in this act sexual misconduct. Most of our children are below 15 and have not yet begun though could be doing it virtually for obvious reasons that they are under their parents. Unless where parents have given up and failed in their responsibility.

A vital point is that these children have no idea what aids is, they only think Chlamydia and genital warts are the worst sexual conditions. Nevertheless adults are familiar what aids can do to human being. It eats one’s health, shape, size and money until one drops down in death.  This August during family rebuild Conference we shall have a session for the youth dealing with STDs, HIV/aids and abstinence. Get the dates for either Coventry or London. 

Someone might love at me and say but we are in the west where anti retrieval doses and other curative methods are easily available. Certainly yes, but do not be fooled. You are better without aids with or without the dose! Have we forgotten that this far despite all technological advancement there is no cure for Aids yet? Aids is a killer, it fragments a family, the stigma has not yet been resolved though has improved. Aids devastates, brings low self esteem and sense of hate to many spouses who get it from their spouses. A lot of counselling is to be involved to given hope to a victim.

Husband and wives should be aware that any time you get yourself hooked to another partner you have greatly increased your chances of being infected. Someone might look healthy and strong, please note that is not the measure of absence of virus, the virus could be dormant waiting for the right environment which you now present. The rate of infection among the married is now increasing because of the high level of unfaithfulness. Increased freedom and lack of accountability has made spouse freelance sex providers which is a form of prostitution. Increased level of earnings have left families worse off for the increase is being managed by potential HIV carriers rather than become a family joy. It is stupid and great level of selfishness and ignorance if any penny that is meant to improve the welfare of one’s family is freely surrendered to a prostitute. Make your wife or husband the best and their response will be the best. 

BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE

The Lord has been gracious; many long prayers on immigration issues have been answered. As a pastor, am always praying and writing documentary evidence for people to give weight to their cases. This is true with all pastors and will continue. The Lord full of mercy and very compassionate has opened doors for many people and especially in the last two years. A brown envelop was delivered bearing a positive report or a solicitor called to give a report not to ask for more. What do we say to this, Thanks to God a million times and million times.

Husbands be responsible

Many people now can approach the airport with boldness, and can board the planes with intention to come back to the island at will. Upon going to abroad it is important for one to really be considerate of the fact that fact that one has a wife or a husband and, children. Do not present yourself as though you have just graduated from full time studies and have kept yourself in a state of celibacy waiting for this moment. If you present yourself as  mandazi to hungry people then your destination will be in their tummies having been thoroughly chewed. There are many women on the waiting room looking for such a mind that has no value for the family. They will adorn themselves for you despite having done the same yesterday for another irresponsible man like you.

Do not be fooled, there are more women in the world than are men. This is a natural phenomenon and we might not balance it even when the west tries to use their technology for baby’s sex choice, women will always be more. If there are more men there will be more trouble in the world.

If the papers mean inviting aids and other STDs it was better if you would have remained in the mole land.    I charge men to have constraints over their sexual surges for the benefit of sustainable family life. Why don’t you improve your sexual relationship with your wife and get to enjoy her to the best. Your wife might not be that difficulty if you treat her same way you treat that prostitute to be precise. If you never smile to your wife, never talk to her with respect, never give leadership to your family but then you do all this to a cheap girl or a woman with a bait how do you expect her to be productive sexually. Enjoyable sex is a contribution of both spouses. It actually starts from the time you step out of your bed in the morning but not when you enter into the bed in the evening. This means that you wife’s productivity depends on your romantic swings long before bed time. Remember there is no better woman than the other it is the way you treat her that determines her response.

Women be sensible

The same is true for a woman. The fact that you have got these papers does not make your husband a devil. It is good to remember the struggles that you have gone through together with him. Your husband might have a problem or two but that does not mean that you dump him for another. The truth is that there are no free men here. Any elderly man you see here has a history therefore do not be fools. An ordinary man in African is married before 30 years old. And of course the British start living together by eighteen, the data may show that many marry at an older age but that means formalising not customary or cohabiting.   

As I invite you to read this data, may I urge you to cooperate with your spouse and build a family rather than scatter what you have already begun.

Rev Wangaruro

For family rebuild.

www.familyrebuild.org Tel: 07940105578